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The tiresome topic of gambling addiction!
21st Apr. 2019, at 02:01 am CEST#11
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To be honest, I find that with the bank advisor pretty intense!
When mine had addressed me about 6 years ago, that was indeed an unpleasant conversation, but
calm and reasonably calm.
Somewhere I would report that in any case, are finally their customer...
Otherwise, I would simply put a bunch in front of the door
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The tiresome topic of gambling addiction!
21st Apr. 2019, at 02:17 am CEST#12
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Carsten92 wrote on 04/20/2019 4:36 PM: Good day dear people,
thank you very much for the kind feedback. I really take things to heart and try to work on myself. Today is just coming to the end of second day without playing and without pressure. I don't know what the reason for that is - I'm guessing the weather, since I'm just out and about all the time. I even have cash in my pocket and it doesn't occur to me to get a Paysafecard. Still, I'm scared to death that in the next few days I'll be gripped by an impulse I can't escape. This pressure I have in the past over and over again... Somehow I have to resist it. To that end, I have to say that I am 100% sure that I am addicted to gambling. I am definitely not in control of my gambling behavior. If I said otherwise, I would be lying and that is exactly what I do not want and do not want
In the course of the next week I will call Caritas and listen to the whole thing. Do you know if the help there is free of charge? What about the obligation of confidentiality? I don't want it to get around in the city - because many people know me and don't know anything about it...
Well... I plan to report here in between how I'm getting on, if that's okay with you guys.
However, I still have some questions
- Am I ever allowed to gamble again?
- May my bank advisor deal with me the way he did? The words were really sharp and harsh. Does he have the right to throw such statements in my face based on my sales?
- To what extent is it any of my bank's business where I send my money and what I spend it on?
- When does this disgusting, uncomfortable, oppressive feeling go away when I think about gambling?
Thank you all!
Greetings
Carsten
Good that you don't go to buy PSC, you actually know in advance that you can't make any money out of it.
So I see a Paysafecard at the gas station like an addictive substance and not like a payment method (like cigarettes, alcohol, etc....)
Carsten92 wrote on 04/20/2019 4:36 PM: Good day dear people,
thank you very much for the kind feedback. I really take things to heart and try to work on myself. Today is just coming to the end of second day without playing and without pressure. I don't know what the reason for that is - I'm guessing the weather, since I'm just out and about all the time. I even have cash in my pocket and it doesn't occur to me to get a Paysafecard. Still, I'm scared to death that in the next few days I'll be gripped by an impulse I can't escape. This pressure I have in the past over and over again... Somehow I have to resist it. To that end, I have to say that I am 100% sure that I am addicted to gambling. I am definitely not in control of my gambling behavior. If I said otherwise, I would be lying and that is exactly what I do not want and do not want
In the course of the next week I will call Caritas and listen to the whole thing. Do you know if the help there is free of charge? What about the obligation of confidentiality? I don't want it to get around in the city - because many people know me and don't know anything about it...
Well... I plan to report here in between how I'm getting on, if that's okay with you guys.
However, I still have some questions
- Am I ever allowed to gamble again?
- May my bank advisor deal with me the way he did? The words were really sharp and harsh. Does he have the right to throw such statements in my face based on my sales?
- To what extent is it any of my bank's business where I send my money and what I spend it on?
- When does this disgusting, uncomfortable, oppressive feeling go away when I think about gambling?
Thank you all!
Greetings
Carsten
As a rule, there is a kind of confidentiality, the consultants will not divulge anything. The help is free of charge, but you can make a voluntary contribution (you will get a piece of paper during the first interview).
Your questions:
- Can I ever play again?
In the best case you never play again, otherwise only after at least a few months break. To keep yourself halfway under control, you should always take longer breaks.
- Is my bank advisor allowed to treat me the way he did? The words were really sharp and harsh. Does he have the right to throw such statements in my face based on my sales?
We don't know the exact wording here and therefore I don't want to judge that. I would only classify the yelling as unnecessary, but not forbidden.
- To what extent is it my bank's business where I send my money and what I spend it on?
There are legal requirements for such things and in addition the bank checks especially if you want a loan how the solvency of the customer is (if you gamble you will be classified as a Risk customer at almost every bank).
- When will this disgusting, uncomfortable, oppressive feeling go away when I think about gambling?
Once you stop it takes a while, the whole thing varies from person to person and can take between 3 and 36 weeks (study). However, you will usually feel a noticeable improvement after 3 weeks.
thank you all for the kind replies! Day 5 without Deposit has started and I haven't had an impulse for 5 days, no pressure to gamble or anything. Can someone explain to me why this is happening all of a sudden? I have money in my pocket and currently do not get the thought to use this money (be it in the gambling house or at the gas station through a PSC). Of course, I briefly thought about it, but then a shiver ran down my spine and I found that rather repulsive.
Regarding the bank advisor:
I decided to pay off the loan for now. There are "only" a few months left, after which I will change banks. I won't let them treat me like that, even though I owe them something. Above all, I am also very grateful that I was helped... Of course it is associal of me to make a deposit (World-Pay-Limited, Ayden etc), but that is still no reason to accuse me of certain things. I also realize that my bank advisor is right about that, but can you imagine how f**king uncomfortable it is to be shat up on the phone and the only thing I could say was that I'm totally uncomfortable and absolutely ashamed of it? Even after that, he kept harping on the fact that I was a gambling addict... He's not wrong about that either, but I'm all about the principle.
About Caritas:
I did some research and found out what you can do. Unfortunately, there is no direct contact point near me. So I will call around at the next opportunity and ask whether there are nevertheless contact persons for such problems at the locations near me
I really have to admit that it's really good to talk to people about it or, as in this case, to write about it. It somehow takes a load off your shoulders!
Thank you all again for the friendly and helpful feedback!
thank you all for the kind replies! Day 5 without Deposit has started and I haven't had an impulse for 5 days, no pressure to gamble or anything. Can someone explain to me why this is happening all of a sudden? I have money in my pocket and currently do not get the thought to use this money (be it in the gambling house or at the gas station through a PSC). Of course, I briefly thought about it, but then a shiver ran down my spine and I found that rather repulsive.
Regarding the bank advisor:
I decided to pay off the loan for now. There are "only" a few months left, after which I will change banks. I won't let them treat me like that, even though I owe them something. Above all, I am also very grateful that I was helped... Of course it is associal of me to make a deposit (World-Pay-Limited, Ayden etc), but that is still no reason to accuse me of certain things. I also realize that my bank advisor is right about that, but can you imagine how f**king uncomfortable it is to get shit on on the phone and the only thing I could say was that I'm totally uncomfortable and absolutely ashamed of it? Even after that he hammered on that I was a gambling addict... He's not wrong about that either, but I'm all about the principle.
About Caritas:
I did some research and found out what you can do. Unfortunately, there is no direct contact point near me. So I will call around at the next opportunity and ask whether there are nevertheless contact persons for such problems at the locations near me
I really have to admit that it's really good to talk to people about it or, as in this case, to write about it. It somehow takes a load off your shoulders!
Thank you all again for the friendly and helpful feedback!
Greetings
Carsten
That is good news, keep it up. There are guaranteed points of contact, otherwise just look for addiction counseling centers, there are guaranteed points of contact or opportunities to mediate a rehab application and to go through all the steps for prevention, etc..
As I said, concentrate now as best you can on your duties, job family sports 👍
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The tiresome topic of gambling addiction!
23rd Apr. 2019, at 01:41 pm CEST#16
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Carsten92 wrote on 04/23/2019 1:16 pm: Hi guys,
Regarding the bank advisor
First of all all the best to you and I hope you have activated the self-exclusion everywhere.
Just a quick note about your bank advisor
If he really yelled at you, then he is absolutely unacceptable in his profession
On the one hand, you don't yell at a customer, and on the other hand, you don't achieve anything by yelling and only show your insecurity/incapacity.
Thank you!
Yes, I will now concentrate fully and completely on my life. I would like to start with endurance and weight training this week. That will certainly do me good.
This week I will make some phone calls and see what you can do with me.
@taktaktak
He didn't really yell at me now. Nagged at is probably more the right term for this situation. Still, there are plenty of other ways to rectify the situation and not the way the bank did it. Well, forget it. Maybe it helped me a little bit to come back down to earth. I think that the call woke me up.
Carsten92 wrote on 04/23/2019 at 1:54 pm: Thank you!
Yes, I will focus fully on my life for now. I also want to start with endurance and weight training already this week. I'm sure that will be good for me too.
This week I will make some phone calls and see what you can do with me.
@taktaktak
He didn't really yell at me now. Nagged at is probably more the right term for this situation. Still, there are plenty of other ways to rectify the situation and not the way the bank did it. Well, forget it. Maybe it helped me a little bit to come back down to earth. I think that the call woke me up.
If you really do that with sport then you have good cards not to relapse. There will still be strong impulses and then you have to resist.
That's just psychology, we are bombarded by advertising and mini Bonuses etc. and of course it all works on us subconsciously. We become regular players ... and on many people in the forum you can also see that they expectation is maintained by some through the advertising despite several rivets. Annoyed about 0.08 € in the free games and two years later they continue to do so and annoyed again and again. Like zombies you could say.
I will definitely follow through with the sports. There is currently no sign of impulses... To be honest, I have no idea what that could be. When I think about playing, I somehow feel a kind of disgust and that will probably be the decisive point. I hope that it will stay like this for a long time.
I have turned off all commercials. A permanent self-exclusion everywhere. Of course, I could still register somewhere, but at this stage I think I rather loathe gambling
I still have one important question:
I just feel dirty some days. I'm p**sed off, in a bad mood and sad at the same time. I absolutely cannot understand the reason. Can these be the consequences of constant gambling? Has it possibly even developed a kind of depression?
Carsten92 wrote on 24.04.2019 at 11:58: I will definitely go through with the sport. There is currently no trace of impulses... I honestly have no idea what that can be. When I think about gambling, I somehow feel a kind of disgust and that will probably be the decisive point. I hope that it will stay like this for a long time.
I have turned off all commercials. A permanent self-exclusion everywhere. Of course, I could still register somewhere, but at this stage I think I rather loathe gambling
I still have one important question:
I just feel dirty some days. I'm p**sed off, in a bad mood and sad at the same time. I absolutely cannot understand the reason. Can these be the consequences of constant gambling? Has it possibly even developed a kind of depression?
I think the reason why you feel dirty and are in a bad mood is because you are now mourning the losses you have suffered from gambling and have slipped into the red. Your bank advisor has called you exactly because of what then clicked in your head and has moved you to rethink
The tiresome topic of gambling addiction!
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When mine had addressed me about 6 years ago, that was indeed an unpleasant conversation, but
calm and reasonably calm.
Somewhere I would report that in any case, are finally their customer...
Otherwise, I would simply put a bunch in front of the door
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The tiresome topic of gambling addiction!
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Good that you don't go to buy PSC, you actually know in advance that you can't make any money out of it.
So I see a Paysafecard at the gas station like an addictive substance and not like a payment method (like cigarettes, alcohol, etc....)
With the thought I have zb. no desire to get one
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The tiresome topic of gambling addiction!
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As a rule, there is a kind of confidentiality, the consultants will not divulge anything. The help is free of charge, but you can make a voluntary contribution (you will get a piece of paper during the first interview).
Your questions:
- Can I ever play again?
In the best case you never play again, otherwise only after at least a few months break. To keep yourself halfway under control, you should always take longer breaks.
- Is my bank advisor allowed to treat me the way he did? The words were really sharp and harsh. Does he have the right to throw such statements in my face based on my sales?
We don't know the exact wording here and therefore I don't want to judge that. I would only classify the yelling as unnecessary, but not forbidden.
- To what extent is it my bank's business where I send my money and what I spend it on?
There are legal requirements for such things and in addition the bank checks especially if you want a loan how the solvency of the customer is (if you gamble you will be classified as a Risk customer at almost every bank).
- When will this disgusting, uncomfortable, oppressive feeling go away when I think about gambling?
Once you stop it takes a while, the whole thing varies from person to person and can take between 3 and 36 weeks (study). However, you will usually feel a noticeable improvement after 3 weeks.
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thank you all for the kind replies!
Day 5 without Deposit has started and I haven't had an impulse for 5 days, no pressure to gamble or anything. Can someone explain to me why this is happening all of a sudden? I have money in my pocket and currently do not get the thought to use this money (be it in the gambling house or at the gas station through a PSC). Of course, I briefly thought about it, but then a shiver ran down my spine and I found that rather repulsive.
Regarding the bank advisor:
I decided to pay off the loan for now. There are "only" a few months left, after which I will change banks. I won't let them treat me like that, even though I owe them something. Above all, I am also very grateful that I was helped... Of course it is associal of me to make a deposit (World-Pay-Limited, Ayden etc), but that is still no reason to accuse me of certain things. I also realize that my bank advisor is right about that, but can you imagine how f**king uncomfortable it is to be shat up on the phone and the only thing I could say was that I'm totally uncomfortable and absolutely ashamed of it? Even after that, he kept harping on the fact that I was a gambling addict... He's not wrong about that either, but I'm all about the principle.
About Caritas:
I did some research and found out what you can do. Unfortunately, there is no direct contact point near me. So I will call around at the next opportunity and ask whether there are nevertheless contact persons for such problems at the locations near me
I really have to admit that it's really good to talk to people about it or, as in this case, to write about it. It somehow takes a load off your shoulders!
Thank you all again for the friendly and helpful feedback!
Greetings
Carsten
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The tiresome topic of gambling addiction!
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That is good news, keep it up. There are guaranteed points of contact, otherwise just look for addiction counseling centers, there are guaranteed points of contact or opportunities to mediate a rehab application and to go through all the steps for prevention, etc..
As I said, concentrate now as best you can on your duties, job family sports 👍
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The tiresome topic of gambling addiction!
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First of all all the best to you and I hope you have activated the self-exclusion everywhere.
Just a quick note about your bank advisor
If he really yelled at you, then he is absolutely unacceptable in his profession
On the one hand, you don't yell at a customer, and on the other hand, you don't achieve anything by yelling and only show your insecurity/incapacity.
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The tiresome topic of gambling addiction!
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Yes, I will now concentrate fully and completely on my life. I would like to start with endurance and weight training this week. That will certainly do me good.
This week I will make some phone calls and see what you can do with me.
@taktaktak
He didn't really yell at me now. Nagged at is probably more the right term for this situation. Still, there are plenty of other ways to rectify the situation and not the way the bank did it. Well, forget it. Maybe it helped me a little bit to come back down to earth. I think that the call woke me up.
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The tiresome topic of gambling addiction!
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If you really do that with sport then you have good cards not to relapse. There will still be strong impulses and then you have to resist.
That's just psychology, we are bombarded by advertising and mini Bonuses etc. and of course it all works on us subconsciously. We become regular players ... and on many people in the forum you can also see that they expectation is maintained by some through the advertising despite several rivets. Annoyed about 0.08 € in the free games and two years later they continue to do so and annoyed again and again. Like zombies you could say.
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The tiresome topic of gambling addiction!
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I have turned off all commercials. A permanent self-exclusion everywhere. Of course, I could still register somewhere, but at this stage I think I rather loathe gambling
I still have one important question:
I just feel dirty some days. I'm p**sed off, in a bad mood and sad at the same time. I absolutely cannot understand the reason. Can these be the consequences of constant gambling? Has it possibly even developed a kind of depression?
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The tiresome topic of gambling addiction!
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I think the reason why you feel dirty and are in a bad mood is because you are now mourning the losses you have suffered from gambling and have slipped into the red. Your bank advisor has called you exactly because of what then clicked in your head and has moved you to rethink
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