Gambling addiction - relapse - and now the therapy ?
19th Jan. 2021, at 07:18 pm CET#11
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Awesome story. Since you've already realized that you have a gaming problem (that's one of the awesome ones I've read here), that's great.
Since this could ruin your financial future for a long time, you should always be clear how important success is for you.
You have to tell yourself every day, every hour, every minute, every second you think about slots, what has happened through it so far.
And that it would happen again.
Build mnemonic bridges to remember the bad times and subordinate everything else to this goal of getting rid of the Gambling addiction with the help of your family.
It really doesn't matter what others think of you. Stick to the people who support you. Doing something against the addiction will make a better impression in general.
Anyone can f**k up. Everyone has screwed up. Learning from it and making it better is then just mega.
So, if your employer allows you to do therapy, go for it.
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19th Jan. 2021, at 07:20 pm CET#12
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bruffl wrote on 01/19/2021 at 2:42 pm: I would let your boss in on it, and ask for 4 weeks off.
Tell your friends you're on vacation, hiking the Camino de Santiago to clear your head or something like that, while no one should be ashamed of an addiction. Most people have some skeletons in the closet.
Hello, Thank you very much for your reply.
Unfortunately, you may have overlooked that it is 4 months, and not 4 weeks.
With a 4 week therapy, this contribution on my part and then also the Regristierung here probably never enstanden
And yes, I agree with you, I am not ashamed of my actions and addiction,
but it is certainly understandable that you would rather that the addiction remains hidden from the general society, Or?
How do you feel about this?
Sincerely
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19th Jan. 2021, at 07:34 pm CET#13
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Wutmaennchen wrote on 19.01.2021 at 19:18: Awesome story. Since you have already recognized that you have n game problem (this is one of the awesome I've read here), is already super.
Since this could ruin your financial future for a long time, you should always be aware of how important success is for you.
You have to tell yourself every day, every hour, every minute, every second you think about slots, what has happened through it so far.
And that it would happen again.
Build mnemonic bridges to remember the bad times and subordinate everything else to this goal of getting rid of the Gambling addiction with the help of your family.
It really doesn't matter what others think of you. Stick to the people who support you. Doing something against the addiction will make a better impression in general.
Anyone can f**k up. Everyone has screwed up. Learning from it and making it better is then just mega.
So, if your employer allows you to do therapy, go for it.
Hello Wutmaennchen, Thank you for your time and answer.
Yes, the story is even very shortened, there were a lot of awesome stories in this season... really, but I'm not allowed to tell everything here, but my written text just provides an overview of the current situation.
Also thanks for the mega written text, that helps me just mentally very!
Yes shit build is beautifully said, if there was an Ultra Bezeichnug, then I would probably be the in the form of a person.
Gambling addiction - relapse - and now the therapy ?
19th Jan. 2021, at 07:50 pm CET#14
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Oldschool1995 wrote on 19/01/2021 at 19:00
Hello, and thank you for your reply.
Yes, I admire such people as you name here very much... that is not without, just stop without further ado.
Of course, I say of myself at the moment, NO, I do not want more, now the point is reached, if I continue now I destroy everything in my life, and HEY, I'm still young, I can still turn everything to the good! I just have to start now.
But that's exactly what I had already twice, and in the end a relapse has arisen, WHILE I really wanted it....
But there comes a time when everything goes well again, the worries of that time seem to be forgotten and you start playing again.
Yes I understand your problem and in a way I am also in this vicious circle. Therefore I can only emphasize that there is no "easy" solution for this issue. Discipline is the key here
I think Falko brought a good approach, with finding a partner, family etc... Simply said: You just need more structure in your private life... Starting a family is an option. If you are the type for something like that "work" on it
Alternatively, something less binding comes to mind first: Find a hobby. In the current pandemic it is obvious to "discover" something you can do at home. Playing computer games for example. If you find a game that you like, you can look for a clan or something
So you have at least a little bit of social interaction, you can set small goals that you can work on I say now. And with like-minded people (so now not related to gambling ^^) you distract yourself from your gaming addiction
It's basically like quitting smoking. The first 2-3 days you can hardly think about anything else. But that settles with time. (This is only a comparable example. The way to get the gambling out of your head will be viiiiiiiiiiiieel longer. But I think you know that)
And again: addicted people stay addicted for their whole life. But with time the addiction will flatten out.... And even if you fall off the wagon. That's life. Get up and try again
In case of doubt, you'll fall flat on your face at some point. And by that I mean that no one will pay your loans. Maybe this is the price for the realization (?) to let it be. So long...
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19th Jan. 2021, at 08:21 pm CET#15
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warennn wrote on 01/19/2021 at 7:50 pm
Yes I understand your problem and in a way I am also in this vicious circle. From there I can only emphasize that there is no "easy" solution to this issue. Discipline is the key here
I think Falko brought a good approach, with finding a partner, family etc... Simply said: You just need more structure in your private life... Starting a family is an option. If you are the type for something like that "work" on it
Alternatively, something less binding comes to mind first: Find a hobby. In the current pandemic it is obvious to "discover" something you can do at home. Playing computer games for example. If you find a game that you like, you can look for a clan or something
So you have at least a little bit of social interaction, you can set small goals that you can work on I say now. And with like-minded people (so now not related to gambling ^^) you distract yourself from your gaming addiction
It's basically like quitting smoking. The first 2-3 days you can hardly think about anything else. But that settles with time. (This is just a comparable example. The way to get the gambling out of your head will be viiiiiiiiiiiieel longer. But I think you know that)
And again: addicted people stay addicted for their whole life. But with time the addiction will flatten out.... And even if you fall off the wagon. That's life. Get up and try again
In case of doubt, you'll get a REAL bust at some point. And by that I mean that no one will pay your loans. Maybe this is the price for the realization (?) to let it be. So long...
Yes, but especially finding a partner has become very difficult in the current situation, you can do almost nothing, and I honestly don't want to get to know anyone on the Internet in such a way. I am there rather so the more personal type.
But yes, I agree with you, that would help me and will help me, it should come sometime again state very much.
Yes, I play enough games now, and they actually distract me.
It's really like that, that I don't think about gambling at the moment, but I know that the moment will probably come again, when I feel good again, the finances stand, and I can get an opportunity to do so, however. It was already so far, that for the first moment everything again okay, and then... Yes...
Yes, I think I've already had that with really flying off the handle... in short, borrowed money from the wrong people, and gambling debts that were not of an official nature, I think you know what I mean... then I was really helped shortly before the end... then I was really down for a long time, physically speaking.
But of course, there is then again the awesome aspect, if no one had helped me there, and I would have been kicked out, I would now probably crash in the car or on the street!
Also thanks again for your answer, every answer helps me here very much!
Can I actually also ask how it is with you, you write yourself, you are so to speak in the same vicious circle? How exactly can we understand that? Do you also want to get out, but have relapses again and again?
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19th Jan. 2021, at 09:09 pm CET#16
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What I just remembered, if the pressure to play should be particularly high, play the tournaments on Socialtournaments. It's free and you even have a chance to win some cash. Maybe after a few tournaments, the pressure will quickly subside.
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19th Jan. 2021, at 09:10 pm CET#17
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Begbie wrote on 19.01.2021 at 21:09: What I just remembered, if the game pressure should be particularly large, play the tournaments on Socialtournaments. It's free and you even have a chance to win some cash. Maybe after a few tournaments the pressure decreases quickly.
that's right, it's a habit
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19th Jan. 2021, at 09:15 pm CET#18
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Begbie wrote on 19.01.2021 at 21:09: What I just remembered, if the game pressure should be particularly large, play the tournaments on Socialtournaments. It's free and you even have a chance to win some cash.
Hello Begbie,
Thank you for your reply.
Firstly, I don't know what Social Tournaments are, but I assume it has something to do with Poker if they are tournaments, and secondly, I'm not sure at the moment if it would make a difference to me, or my head, if it was "free" or a small buy in - in the form of reasonable money e.g. 5-10€.
I have the feeling I should distance myself from all kinds of things that have only remotely to do with my old gaming style - habit - addiction, you name it.
Whereby, of course, it must be said, considering my financial circumstances, any occupation that is provided - or can be done - for free is VERY GOOD.
But still at the moment I try to stay away from all games of that kind, just the notion, with some luck you have the CHANCE to win some cash is exactly what I try to avoid!!!! Exactly such small triggers have cost me quite a bit of money when something was "Free" at the beginning.
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19th Jan. 2021, at 09:25 pm CET#19
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On socialtournaments.com you can play Pragmatic Play slots for free, in tournaments, the first places win smaller amounts of money. The advantage is that you don't have to invest a single cent, but you can still relieve the pressure of playing and even win something with a little luck
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19th Jan. 2021, at 09:25 pm CET#20
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Tomi559 wrote on 19/01/2021 at 09:51: Hello Oldschool1995
you should first ask yourself the question and answer what attracts you to gambling so much, to always have the desire to do so!
Who is once caught in it is also difficult to get out, if (as warennn has already described) you do not have the will to do so!
Some can also live with it, if you are honest with yourself and know what they are so fascinated by it!
I, for example, could not stop forever, but have set myself a limit, so that no one suffers financially and I can still have fun with it from time to time. If there is still a win, I pay out and wait another month.
As I said, ask yourself first what keeps pulling you in there.
1. Financially it can not be, because you have to keep that in mind, you earn well and have this not necessary
2. If it is for fun and to switch off, then leave it at that and work with limits, e.g. once a month 100€ - 200€ Deposit
3. If it's just for a long time then work on yourself and look for variety in your life which makes you happy (hobbies)
Do not set the goal WHY but HOW you can live with it without harming yourself, family and friends.
Mfg
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Hello Tomi559,
Thank you very much for your detailed and very helpful answer,
The last sentence is very interesting for me, and I have never thought of this matter that way.
Why, that's right, when I think about it so is in retrospect now actually totally no matter! It is just so!
But the how, I am just looking for and I really hope that I will soon have a permanent solution...
You say yourself, you do not want to stop, but set yourself limits, does that work so?
I know that also from before, in the Spielo driven with 50€, at the beginning said if the is gone, is good and I just go home again... but instead of going home, I just went to the ATM...
Whether it is Spielo, casino, online casino, etc., why should it be different there?
There are almost unlimited possibilities to bypass self-blocks, and especially the Online Casinos are growing like mushrooms out of the ground, I mean, I think I have made almost all the ways I can bypass my controls and also made.
This ranges from new casino registrations, direct debits, or even prepaid credit cards loaded with cash and then played with it, I could continue the situations endlessly. I mean ultimately there is always the danger that you only once the self-named limits do not comply and within an hour, a night, or maybe even a week. Everything throws over the pile and everything gambles away.
I think through the Internet, online banking etc, there are so many possibilities, if you want to find them the,
that if you want, you will always find a way to blow your limits!
But if that works for you, of course, that's wonderful and I'm happy for you.
But I think for me this is nothing, the past has taught me that I can not deal well with such limits in the short or long term.
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Since this could ruin your financial future for a long time, you should always be clear how important success is for you.
You have to tell yourself every day, every hour, every minute, every second you think about slots, what has happened through it so far.
And that it would happen again.
Build mnemonic bridges to remember the bad times and subordinate everything else to this goal of getting rid of the Gambling addiction with the help of your family.
It really doesn't matter what others think of you. Stick to the people who support you. Doing something against the addiction will make a better impression in general.
Anyone can f**k up. Everyone has screwed up. Learning from it and making it better is then just mega.
So, if your employer allows you to do therapy, go for it.
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Hello, Thank you very much for your reply.
Unfortunately, you may have overlooked that it is 4 months, and not 4 weeks.
With a 4 week therapy, this contribution on my part and then also the Regristierung here probably never enstanden
And yes, I agree with you, I am not ashamed of my actions and addiction,
but it is certainly understandable that you would rather that the addiction remains hidden from the general society, Or?
How do you feel about this?
Sincerely
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Hello Wutmaennchen, Thank you for your time and answer.
Yes, the story is even very shortened, there were a lot of awesome stories in this season... really, but I'm not allowed to tell everything here, but my written text just provides an overview of the current situation.
Also thanks for the mega written text, that helps me just mentally very!
Yes shit build is beautifully said, if there was an Ultra Bezeichnug, then I would probably be the in the form of a person.
MfG
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Yes I understand your problem and in a way I am also in this vicious circle. Therefore I can only emphasize that there is no "easy" solution for this issue. Discipline is the key here
I think Falko brought a good approach, with finding a partner, family etc... Simply said: You just need more structure in your private life... Starting a family is an option. If you are the type for something like that "work" on it
Alternatively, something less binding comes to mind first: Find a hobby. In the current pandemic it is obvious to "discover" something you can do at home. Playing computer games for example. If you find a game that you like, you can look for a clan or something
So you have at least a little bit of social interaction, you can set small goals that you can work on I say now. And with like-minded people (so now not related to gambling ^^) you distract yourself from your gaming addiction
It's basically like quitting smoking. The first 2-3 days you can hardly think about anything else. But that settles with time. (This is only a comparable example. The way to get the gambling out of your head will be viiiiiiiiiiiieel longer. But I think you know that)
And again: addicted people stay addicted for their whole life. But with time the addiction will flatten out.... And even if you fall off the wagon. That's life. Get up and try again
In case of doubt, you'll fall flat on your face at some point. And by that I mean that no one will pay your loans. Maybe this is the price for the realization (?) to let it be. So long...
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Yes, but especially finding a partner has become very difficult in the current situation, you can do almost nothing, and I honestly don't want to get to know anyone on the Internet in such a way. I am there rather so the more personal type.
But yes, I agree with you, that would help me and will help me, it should come sometime again state very much.
Yes, I play enough games now, and they actually distract me.
It's really like that, that I don't think about gambling at the moment, but I know that the moment will probably come again, when I feel good again, the finances stand, and I can get an opportunity to do so, however. It was already so far, that for the first moment everything again okay, and then... Yes...
Yes, I think I've already had that with really flying off the handle... in short, borrowed money from the wrong people, and gambling debts that were not of an official nature, I think you know what I mean... then I was really helped shortly before the end... then I was really down for a long time, physically speaking.
But of course, there is then again the awesome aspect, if no one had helped me there, and I would have been kicked out, I would now probably crash in the car or on the street!
Also thanks again for your answer, every answer helps me here very much!
Can I actually also ask how it is with you, you write yourself, you are so to speak in the same vicious circle? How exactly can we understand that? Do you also want to get out, but have relapses again and again?
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Hello Begbie,
Thank you for your reply.
Firstly, I don't know what Social Tournaments are, but I assume it has something to do with Poker if they are tournaments, and secondly, I'm not sure at the moment if it would make a difference to me, or my head, if it was "free" or a small buy in - in the form of reasonable money e.g. 5-10€.
I have the feeling I should distance myself from all kinds of things that have only remotely to do with my old gaming style - habit - addiction, you name it.
Whereby, of course, it must be said, considering my financial circumstances, any occupation that is provided - or can be done - for free is VERY GOOD.
But still at the moment I try to stay away from all games of that kind, just the notion, with some luck you have the CHANCE to win some cash is exactly what I try to avoid!!!! Exactly such small triggers have cost me quite a bit of money when something was "Free" at the beginning.
Thanks anyway for your reply and tips towards me.
MfG
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Hello Tomi559,
Thank you very much for your detailed and very helpful answer,
The last sentence is very interesting for me, and I have never thought of this matter that way.
Why, that's right, when I think about it so is in retrospect now actually totally no matter! It is just so!
But the how, I am just looking for and I really hope that I will soon have a permanent solution...
You say yourself, you do not want to stop, but set yourself limits, does that work so?
I know that also from before, in the Spielo driven with 50€, at the beginning said if the is gone, is good and I just go home again... but instead of going home, I just went to the ATM...
Whether it is Spielo, casino, online casino, etc., why should it be different there?
There are almost unlimited possibilities to bypass self-blocks, and especially the Online Casinos are growing like mushrooms out of the ground, I mean, I think I have made almost all the ways I can bypass my controls and also made.
This ranges from new casino registrations, direct debits, or even prepaid credit cards loaded with cash and then played with it, I could continue the situations endlessly. I mean ultimately there is always the danger that you only once the self-named limits do not comply and within an hour, a night, or maybe even a week. Everything throws over the pile and everything gambles away.
I think through the Internet, online banking etc, there are so many possibilities, if you want to find them the,
that if you want, you will always find a way to blow your limits!
But if that works for you, of course, that's wonderful and I'm happy for you.
But I think for me this is nothing, the past has taught me that I can not deal well with such limits in the short or long term.
MfG Hope
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