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Hey all,
i want to tell you a short story (not so much a story, well, I'll just tell you something...) about myself and I'd be interested in how you see it and how it works for you?
Briefly about me, I'm the Tobi, am 1 year over the half century, work and am depressed. (lol, like partly in a support group...)
I write it explicitly like this because I don't want my employer or anyone who knows me to know who I am...
It is not only about gambling, but also about other things, which are often related to it.
I just write down everything that comes to my mind and annoys me, so here's a warning about chronological order, sense, context..etc
In addition, I am also not a good text writer, so I ask for understanding.
It is very unpleasant for me to write about me, but now it works, because I drank something.
gambling
I started gambling when I was 18 years old, just went to a casino after going to a ford (partying, etc) and tried it out.
-> won a few euros, was a great feeling
This has just increased more and more, in the beginning still in gambling houses (often also with one from the vocational school, there it became really bad and often...), now in online casinos.
My parents and my ex-girlfriend knew about the addiction and after a few years I went to a counseling center, and now I'm banned from all gambling establishments in the area. I also have individual sessions here, which take place every few weeks/months.
My life, my situation
It seems to me basically quite stupid that I write this now in such a way here, but now well...
I could rarely be happy about anything in my life, even as a child.
Sure, gifts have always been something great, but I could never be 100% happy.
As a guy I was also in school always rather quiet nature, usually always friendly and polite, look technically I would
always classify me as mediocre.
Shy I have always been, after the first halfway real relationship in my younger years (cheated..) and other "Fails", I also built up a
a certain self-confidence. There I was then 17 years old. Here I felt moderately good (which was very good for me psychologically) and was able to
date different girls/women, get to know them,...etc
This has strengthened my self-confidence well and in this phase I had then also met my girlfriend at the time.
With this girlfriend, ex-girlfriend for quite some time, I was together for almost 7 years.
In this time I had of course also relatively positive phases, but at the same time also very negative.
During this time my addiction to gambling increased, as well as my depression.
Just after almost 7 years it went apart, because it simply did not fit any more, we both had different ideas of the life
and I could not have imagined in my life that I would be with her until the end of my life... (There were more reasons, which I do not want to go into here)
She emphatically weakened my self-confidence/confidence, put me down too often and I moron let her do it to me.
In front of "friends/acquaintances" embarrassing things blabbed out by me, etc.
After the separation we lived together for about 2 months and then I moved back to my parents...
The months after that were very eventful in the sense of gambling, I had my biggest win ever and could also pay off debts.
Of course I left out some things here, but if I had written them, I would still write them tomorrow and nobody would read them anyway.
Will it anyway no one, but well, I'll write anyway
Current situation, current life
Currently it looks like this with me, I live from month to month (salary income), I have almost no more fun in life.
I haven't had a good night's sleep in years and I have to force myself to go to work every day.
I hardly enjoy anything in life, the only things are:
- I look forward to receiving my paycheck and then gamble
- I drink so much every Saturday until I'm almost drunk and then listen to music (because that gives me something in some way)
- Cars basically, but that's another story
-
I have no self-confidence because I am basically very unhappy with myself, I also hate myself in some ways.
At the whole here I have left out much and I could write as already mentioned, so much more, but to it I am now simply
too lazy...:-D
At the moment I've started a 30 day fitness program again, I'm now at day 23 and it is very exhausting with time^^
But I want to get really physically fit again, to become more interesting for other people and mainly actually
to reduce the self-hatred.
I am basically a rather calm type, but lately(since a few years) I get aggressive relatively quickly...
..and the smallest setbacks knock me back 1000 meters psychologically.
At the moment I actually have almost no friends anymore, they all got lost in the course of the relationship.
i have no one who "grounds" me in a certain way.
What if all of a sudden the company goes out of business or whatever?
I'm not out on the street, but with no money and thousands in Debt?
There are so many questions and so many more and I don't know the answer, I'm just at a loss.
I'm only writing all this because I've had enough to drink...
With every post in the forum I think several times: "Could it p**s someone off? Could it sound stupid? ... "
I hardly dare do anything. Every little shit, I just hate it.
Every month I pay back debts, the last months it's going better too (no new debts), if this continues I might look for an apartment in 1-2 years -> too late in my opinion.
I'm just months/years already a mental wreck and don't really know how to get out of my situation.
Lose weight/get in shape? I do not know.
Does anyone else possibly feel the same way? I would be happy if you could exchange ideas and possibly help each other!
It is understandable for me if no one here writes something back, but I just wanted to get rid of that now times...
What do you think?
What's the best way to deal with depression, depressed moods,...etc?
Do you have any effective tips for losing weight? ( Weigh 87 kg at 1.86m, incl. Onepack)
Many greetings
Tobi
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22nd Apr. 2018, at 02:34 am CEST#2
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tby333 wrote on 04/22/2018 at 01:28: Hey everyone,
i want to tell you a short story (not so much a story, well, I'll just tell you something...) of mine and I would be interested in how you guys see it or how it works for you?
Briefly about me, I'm the Tobi, am 1 year over the half century, work and am depressed. (lol, like partly in a support group...)
I write it explicitly like this because I don't want my employer or anyone who knows me to know who I am...
It is not only about gambling, but also about other things, which are often related to it.
I just write down everything that comes to my mind and annoys me, so here's a warning about chronological order, sense, context..etc
In addition, I am also not a good text writer, so I ask for understanding.
It is very unpleasant for me to write about me, but now it works, because I drank something.
gambling
I started gambling when I was 18 years old, just after going to a ford (partying, etc.) I went to a casino and tried it out.
-> won a few euros, was a great feeling
This has just increased more and more, in the beginning still in gambling houses (often also with one from the vocational school, there it became really bad and often...), now in online casinos.
My parents and my ex-girlfriend knew about the addiction and after a few years I went to a counseling center, and now I'm banned from all gambling establishments in the area. I also have individual sessions here, which take place every few weeks/months.
My life, my situation
It seems to me basically quite stupid that I write this now in such a way here, but now well...
I could rarely be happy about anything in my life, even as a child.
Sure, gifts have always been something great, but I could never be 100% happy.
As a guy I was also in school always rather quiet nature, usually always friendly and polite, look technically I would
always classify me as mediocre.
Shy I have always been, after the first halfway real relationship in my younger years (cheated..) and other "Fails", I also built up a
a certain self-confidence. There I was then 17 years old. Here I felt moderately good (which was very good for me psychologically) and was able to
date different girls/women, get to know them,...etc
This has strengthened my self-confidence well and in this phase I had then also met my girlfriend at the time.
With this girlfriend, ex-girlfriend for quite some time, I was together for almost 7 years.
In this time I had of course also relatively positive phases, but at the same time also very negative.
During this time my addiction to gambling increased, as well as my depression.
Just after almost 7 years it went apart, because it simply did not fit any more, we both had different ideas of the life
and I could not have imagined in my life that I would be with her until the end of my life... (There were more reasons, which I do not want to go into here)
She emphatically weakened my self-confidence/confidence, put me down too often and I moron let her do it to me.
In front of "friends/acquaintances" embarrassing things blabbed out by me, etc.
After the separation we lived together for about 2 months and then I moved back to my parents...
The months after that were very eventful in the sense of gambling, I had my biggest win ever and could also pay off debts.
Of course I left out some things here, but if I had written them, I would still write them tomorrow and nobody would read them anyway.
Will it anyway no one, but well, I'll write anyway
Current situation, current life
Currently it looks like this with me, I live from month to month (salary income), I have almost no more fun in life.
I haven't had a good night's sleep in years and I have to force myself to go to work every day.
I hardly enjoy anything in life, the only things are:
- I look forward to receiving my paycheck and then gamble
- I drink so much every Saturday until I'm almost drunk and then listen to music (because that gives me something in some way)
- Cars basically, but that's another story
-
I have no self-confidence because I am basically very unhappy with myself, I also hate myself in some ways.
At the whole here I have left out much and I could write as already mentioned, so much more, but to it I am now simply
too lazy...:-D
At the moment I've started a 30 day fitness program again, I'm now at day 23 and it is very exhausting with time^^
But I want to get really physically fit again, to become more interesting for other people and mainly actually
to reduce the self-hatred.
I'm basically a rather calm type, but lately(since a few years) I become relatively fast aggressive...
..and the smallest setbacks knock me back 1000 meters psychologically.
At the moment I actually have almost no friends anymore, they all got lost in the course of the relationship.
i have no one who "grounds" me in a certain way.
What if all of a sudden the company goes out of business or whatever?
I'm not out on the street, but with no money and thousands in Debt?
There are so many questions and so many more and I don't know the answer, I'm just at a loss.
I'm only writing all this because I've had enough to drink...
With every post in the forum I think several times: "Could it p**s someone off? Could it sound stupid? ... "
I hardly dare do anything. Every little shit, I just hate it.
Every month I pay back debts, the last months it's going better too (no new debts), if this continues I might look for an apartment in 1-2 years -> too late in my opinion.
I'm just months/years already a mental wreck and don't really know how to get out of my situation.
Lose weight/get in shape? I do not know.
Does anyone else possibly feel the same way? I would be happy if you could exchange ideas and possibly help each other!
It is understandable for me if no one here writes something back, but I just wanted to get rid of that now times...
What do you think?
What's the best way to deal with depression, depressed moods,...etc?
Do you have effective tips for losing weight? ( Weigh 87 kg at 1.86m, incl. Onepack)
Many greetings
Tobi
THERAPY!!!
You will not get any answers here that will help you or satisfy you.
Be honest with yourself: Every possible answer you already know in advance, the tips and understanding posts, the advice, simply everything you already know
You've also probably googled 1000 times with keywords like : overcome depression, live a happy life, fight Gambling addiction, lose weight, build muscle, meet women, etc.
There is no one sentence that changes everything, there is not the ultimate solution you are looking for.
Also this thread here will only be a little distraction, in 2 days you won't care anymore.
Pretty much everyone knows the answers to what they would have to do. The problem is much more the discrepancy between the life you would like to lead and the one you actually lead.
The more the actual image of yourself differs from the one you would like to have, the worse your inner experience and your dissatisfaction becomes.
It does not happen overnight. It is a long process that you have to go step by step.
And almost only a good therapist can help you with that.
Nobody is interested in whether you do it or not. Only you, or not.
So it is only up to you what you do with your life.
Come from thinking into active action.
Maybe I can cheer you up a bit or give you some advice.
I always like to read something like that, because I find it interesting what people think and feel.
I also have to look at the answers always on your text...
If your work just f**ks you, then f**k the work and find something else or
get fired and f**k it, be unemployed for 1 year and get some sleep.
Only do not get used to it, that is the worst mistake!
The German state does not let anyone starve ^^
In this time you are looking for a few hobbies together, manyicht what
you with the then new job could connect.
Cars are cool, but price performance is usually not given for the fun.
You can have 500 hp, after 3 months you ask yourself for what you fritter away this coal.
Self-confidence... I personally don't have that problem... But:
I can tell you already, self-confidence has nothing to do with weight or being thin/thick.
Self-confidence comes from the heart, if you're a shit guy, what good is your self-confidence... NIX
Think you like your fitness plan as much as your work ?
f**k it, go to a good gym, study what's on offer and then do what you really enjoy.
If you have fun with various fitness things, it is better and also no "must" think
My favorites are: Running,swimming, mountain biking, strength
With the new hobbies and/or sports you also get to know a lot of people,
friendships can possibly develop from it.
These, I say times existence thoughts (work / company / money) have certainly very many people.
I find this concern unjustified, because you can get through, for example, with Hartz4
In the self-experiment already 1 month made, because someone meant like inhuman.
Lieblingshartzer: Arno Dübel, best man, who has much less worries than some employers / takers.
with the debts yes, if your you with your parents no problem have and you there live, then it is nevertheless no matter
whether you in 1/2 years there again your tents abrichst or in 5 years, the time runs anyway and passes.
Don't make time limits for yourself, what's the use ? Exactly nothing, only stress.
If your depressions etc. become stronger I would also recommend a therapy/psychologist.
When I'm f**ked up, I shoot something broken, then I'm fine again and come to my senses
Ok is only unfortunately no advice for you, would be even nicer...
Effective weight loss ? Look without joke times at the Weightwatchers programs.
Since you have at least a plan and can still incorporate sports.
Am myself a fit sporty fatso (115/180) so I should also start ^^
I hope you could take a few tips, if you what has helped or not let me know
tby333 wrote on 04/22/2018 at 01:28: Hey everyone,
i want to tell you a short story (not so much a story, well, I'll just tell you something...) of mine and I'd be interested in how you guys see it or how it works for you?
Briefly about me, I am the Tobi, am 1 year over the half century, work and am depressed. (lol, like partly in a support group...)
I write it explicitly like this because I don't want my employer or anyone who knows me to know who I am...
It is not only about gambling, but also about other things, which are often related to it.
I just write down everything that comes to my mind and annoys me, so here's a warning about chronological order, sense, context..etc
In addition, I am also not a good text writer, so I ask for understanding.
It is very unpleasant for me to write about me, but now it works, because I drank something.
gambling
I started gambling when I was 18 years old, just after going to a ford (partying, etc.) I went to a casino and tried it out.
-> won a few euros, was a great feeling
This has just increased more and more, in the beginning still in gambling houses (often also with one from the vocational school, there it became really bad and often...), now in online casinos.
My parents and my ex-girlfriend knew about my addiction and after a few years I went to a counseling center, and now I'm banned from all gambling establishments in the area. I also have individual sessions here, which take place every few weeks/months.
My life, my situation
It seems to me basically quite stupid that I write this now in such a way here, but now well...
I could rarely be happy about anything in my life, even as a child.
Sure, gifts have always been something great, but I could never be 100% happy.
As a guy I was also in school always rather quiet nature, usually always friendly and polite, look technically I would
always classify me as mediocre.
Shy I have always been, after the first halfway real relationship in my younger years (cheated..) and other "Fails", I also built up a
a certain self-confidence. There I was then 17 years old. Here I felt moderately good (which was very good for me psychologically) and was able to
date different girls/women, get to know them,...etc
This has strengthened my self-confidence well and in this phase I had then also met my girlfriend at the time.
With this girlfriend, ex-girlfriend for quite some time, I was together for almost 7 years.
In this time I had of course also relatively positive phases, but at the same time also very negative.
During this time my addiction to gambling increased, as well as my depression.
Just after almost 7 years it went apart, because it simply did not fit any more, we both had different ideas of the life
and I could not have imagined in my life that I would be with her until the end of my life... (There were more reasons, which I do not want to go into here)
She emphatically weakened my self-confidence/confidence, put me down too often and I moron let her do it to me.
In front of "friends/acquaintances" embarrassing things blabbed out by me, etc.
After the separation we lived together for about 2 months and then I moved back to my parents...
The months after that were very eventful in the sense of gambling, I had my biggest win ever and could also pay off debts.
Of course I left out some things here, but if I had written them, I would still write them tomorrow and nobody would read them anyway.
Will it anyway no one, but well, I'll write anyway
Current situation, current life
Currently it looks like this with me, I live from month to month (salary income), I have almost no more fun in life.
I haven't had a good night's sleep in years and I have to force myself to go to work every day.
I hardly enjoy anything in life, the only things are:
- I look forward to receiving my paycheck and then gamble
- I drink so much every Saturday until I'm almost drunk and then listen to music (because that gives me something in some way)
- Cars basically, but that's another story
-
I have no self-confidence because I am basically very unhappy with myself, I also hate myself in some ways.
At the whole here I have left out much and I could write as already mentioned, so much more, but to it I am now simply
too lazy...:-D
At the moment I've started a 30 day fitness program again, I'm now at day 23 and it is very exhausting with time^^
But I want to get really physically fit again, to become more interesting for other people and mainly actually
to reduce the self-hatred.
I'm basically a rather calm type, but lately(since a few years) I become relatively fast aggressive...
..and the smallest setbacks knock me back 1000 meters psychologically.
At the moment I actually have almost no friends anymore, they all got lost in the course of the relationship.
i have no one who "grounds" me in a certain way.
What if all of a sudden the company goes out of business or whatever?
I'm not out on the street, but with no money and thousands in Debt?
There are so many questions and so many more and I don't know the answer, I'm just at a loss.
I'm only writing all this because I've had enough to drink...
With every post in the forum I think several times: "Could it p**s someone off? Could it sound stupid? ... "
I hardly dare do anything. Every little shit, I just hate it.
Every month I pay back debts, the last months it's going better too (no new debts), if this continues I might look for an apartment in 1-2 years -> too late in my opinion.
I'm just months/years already a mental wreck and don't really know how to get out of my situation.
Lose weight/get in shape? I do not know.
Does anyone else possibly feel the same way? I would be happy if you could exchange ideas and possibly help each other!
It is understandable for me if no one here writes something back, but I just wanted to get rid of that now times...
What do you think?
What's the best way to deal with depression, depressed moods,...etc?
Do you have effective tips for losing weight? ( Weigh 87 kg at 1.86m, incl. Onepack)
Many greetings
Tobi
would other similar stories pull you down further?
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Nice that you are so honest!!!
Hey Tobi...believe me you are not alone!
Although it is not so awesome with me but so depressive episodes I also have times!
I work 12-15 hours a day - of course I have a good salary and I also enjoy working a lot...
but when I come home and no one is there, single for 1 year, then it pulls me down really, that you can share with no one his day.
Then drink 1-2 bottles of wine and half drunk at the slots ...
The next day when I have then 300-400 € gambled away come the feelings of guilt...The einreden ...never gamble again but it comes then again differently!
With me it is at the moment in such a way that I am completely burned out ...at night can no longer sleep but not because I have debts or something else, but only the loneliness!
Together it sleeps rather nicer, because you know it from before ... there I never gambled!!!
I rather went on vacation and other things ...
Now and then I distract myself with an escort lady and am satisfied for a moment but the social environment is simply missing!
Eben also no real circle of friends...
Your story is not hopeless!!!
Believe in yourself !
Love life and it loves you !
Every day can be a new beginning and bring happiness ---- WITHOUT BUGGING !!!!
Especially no alcohol because that pulls you down even more ...I know too well and then you fall into self-pity and possibly do bad things ...
I bought a MTB and ride since then through woods and meadows in my little free time but there you really get the head free !
And every now and then you also have a connection with a lady ...who also cycles or jogs !!!!
Everything will be fine - if you only want it !!!
And if nothing more goes then just professional help !!!!
You won't get any answers here that will help or satisfy you.
Be honest with yourself: Every possible answer you already know in advance, the tips and understanding posts, the advice, simply everything you already know
You've also probably googled 1000 times with keywords like : overcome depression, live a happy life, fight Gambling addiction, lose weight, build muscle, meet women, etc.
There is no one sentence that changes everything, there is not the ultimate solution you are looking for.
Also this thread here will only be a little distraction, in 2 days you won't care anymore.
Pretty much everyone knows the answers to what they would have to do. The problem is much more the discrepancy between the life you would like to lead and the one you actually lead.
The more the actual image of yourself differs from the one you would like to have, the worse your inner experience and your dissatisfaction becomes.
It does not happen overnight. It is a long process that you have to go step by step.
And almost only a good therapist can help you with that.
Nobody is interested in whether you do it or not. Only you, or not.
So it is only up to you what you do with your life.
Come from thinking into active action.
That is absolutely the top answer, right to the point.
I too had a similar depressive phase and had also let myself go and got fatter, lived from month to month (despite a good salary) and often had to borrow small amounts from family to make ends meet.
This is really - sorry - really really shit and the other people are also worried about you or no longer help financially. At some point, you can no longer say "Sorry had a lot of bills to pay".
Meanwhile, I also go back to the gym!
Random put it so well! In a few days you are no longer interested in the thread, soon there will be new salary and then the whole shit starts again from the beginning.
Then you drink once again on the weekend and will be in a few months still in the "thinking", instead of really actively acted.
You will then also notice that you haven't made any progress and time is running out - your depressions might even get worse!
Your parents will certainly notice that you are not doing well, and they may also be quietly worried.
Actually you want your parents to be proud of you, they don't want to see you as a heap of misery and neither do YOU!
Go train regularly, build yourself up again!
Of course, therapy is a solution in some cases, but many people don't do it because they are ashamed of it, also because they don't work.
Try to treat yourself with sports, get your debts under control and see gambling as a luxury good. Set yourself limits or take a hardcore break from it all for a few months.
Make your parents proud! If you don't get into active gambling as soon as possible - as Random wrote - you might regret it bitterly one day not to have done it sooner.
At some point you realize that you have to do something in your life, having a good job is of course important but that alone is not enough.
Earning good money and going to work every day is a good argument to talk up the rest.
I wish you a nice evening!
VG
Starwalker
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So in advance already times apologies for the content of my post from yesterday, this is indeed correct, but would
but I normally never and nimma so write...Since spoke probably the alcohol from me...
I was probably bored and it had to get out in the moment, this morning I was already ashamed of it^^
With the wonderfully beautiful day today I also had time to think about my current situation.
Actually, it runs compared to half a year ago relatively well, for a few months I have no new
new debts and I'm reducing my debts every month. (No heavy outliers while gambling)
Since almost a month I'm also training, only the beginning was very difficult, but now it works.
In terms of therapy, I had at least years ago sessions with a psychologist / psychiatrist ^ ^ with tablets and everything, but was rather nixed
but it was rather nothing for me.
Otherwise I have individual sessions with a therapist regarding Gambling addiction every now and then. (Unfortunately relatively inconstant, because she is often sick...)
@Sweep: I always tell myself (women): "You can't do without them, but you can't do with them either"
I should probably, as hard as it is, mainly always pick out the positive things too...
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i want to tell you a short story (not so much a story, well, I'll just tell you something...) about myself and I'd be interested in how you see it and how it works for you?
Briefly about me, I'm the Tobi, am 1 year over the half century, work and am depressed. (lol, like partly in a support group...)
I write it explicitly like this because I don't want my employer or anyone who knows me to know who I am...
It is not only about gambling, but also about other things, which are often related to it.
I just write down everything that comes to my mind and annoys me, so here's a warning about chronological order, sense, context..etc
In addition, I am also not a good text writer, so I ask for understanding.
It is very unpleasant for me to write about me, but now it works, because I drank something.
gambling
I started gambling when I was 18 years old, just went to a casino after going to a ford (partying, etc) and tried it out.
-> won a few euros, was a great feeling
This has just increased more and more, in the beginning still in gambling houses (often also with one from the vocational school, there it became really bad and often...), now in online casinos.
My parents and my ex-girlfriend knew about the addiction and after a few years I went to a counseling center, and now I'm banned from all gambling establishments in the area. I also have individual sessions here, which take place every few weeks/months.
My life, my situation
It seems to me basically quite stupid that I write this now in such a way here, but now well...
I could rarely be happy about anything in my life, even as a child.
Sure, gifts have always been something great, but I could never be 100% happy.
As a guy I was also in school always rather quiet nature, usually always friendly and polite, look technically I would
always classify me as mediocre.
Shy I have always been, after the first halfway real relationship in my younger years (cheated..) and other "Fails", I also built up a
a certain self-confidence. There I was then 17 years old. Here I felt moderately good (which was very good for me psychologically) and was able to
date different girls/women, get to know them,...etc
This has strengthened my self-confidence well and in this phase I had then also met my girlfriend at the time.
With this girlfriend, ex-girlfriend for quite some time, I was together for almost 7 years.
In this time I had of course also relatively positive phases, but at the same time also very negative.
During this time my addiction to gambling increased, as well as my depression.
Just after almost 7 years it went apart, because it simply did not fit any more, we both had different ideas of the life
and I could not have imagined in my life that I would be with her until the end of my life... (There were more reasons, which I do not want to go into here)
She emphatically weakened my self-confidence/confidence, put me down too often and I moron let her do it to me.
In front of "friends/acquaintances" embarrassing things blabbed out by me, etc.
After the separation we lived together for about 2 months and then I moved back to my parents...
The months after that were very eventful in the sense of gambling, I had my biggest win ever and could also pay off debts.
Of course I left out some things here, but if I had written them, I would still write them tomorrow and nobody would read them anyway.
Will it anyway no one, but well, I'll write anyway
Current situation, current life
Currently it looks like this with me, I live from month to month (salary income), I have almost no more fun in life.
I haven't had a good night's sleep in years and I have to force myself to go to work every day.
I hardly enjoy anything in life, the only things are:
- I look forward to receiving my paycheck and then gamble
- I drink so much every Saturday until I'm almost drunk and then listen to music (because that gives me something in some way)
- Cars basically, but that's another story
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I have no self-confidence because I am basically very unhappy with myself, I also hate myself in some ways.
At the whole here I have left out much and I could write as already mentioned, so much more, but to it I am now simply
too lazy...:-D
At the moment I've started a 30 day fitness program again, I'm now at day 23 and it is very exhausting with time^^
But I want to get really physically fit again, to become more interesting for other people and mainly actually
to reduce the self-hatred.
I am basically a rather calm type, but lately(since a few years) I get aggressive relatively quickly...
..and the smallest setbacks knock me back 1000 meters psychologically.
At the moment I actually have almost no friends anymore, they all got lost in the course of the relationship.
i have no one who "grounds" me in a certain way.
What if all of a sudden the company goes out of business or whatever?
I'm not out on the street, but with no money and thousands in Debt?
There are so many questions and so many more and I don't know the answer, I'm just at a loss.
I'm only writing all this because I've had enough to drink...
With every post in the forum I think several times: "Could it p**s someone off? Could it sound stupid? ... "
I hardly dare do anything. Every little shit, I just hate it.
Every month I pay back debts, the last months it's going better too (no new debts), if this continues I might look for an apartment in 1-2 years -> too late in my opinion.
I'm just months/years already a mental wreck and don't really know how to get out of my situation.
Lose weight/get in shape? I do not know.
Does anyone else possibly feel the same way? I would be happy if you could exchange ideas and possibly help each other!
It is understandable for me if no one here writes something back, but I just wanted to get rid of that now times...
What do you think?
What's the best way to deal with depression, depressed moods,...etc?
Do you have any effective tips for losing weight? ( Weigh 87 kg at 1.86m, incl. Onepack)
Many greetings
Tobi
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THERAPY!!!
You will not get any answers here that will help you or satisfy you.
Be honest with yourself: Every possible answer you already know in advance, the tips and understanding posts, the advice, simply everything you already know
You've also probably googled 1000 times with keywords like : overcome depression, live a happy life, fight Gambling addiction, lose weight, build muscle, meet women, etc.
There is no one sentence that changes everything, there is not the ultimate solution you are looking for.
Also this thread here will only be a little distraction, in 2 days you won't care anymore.
Pretty much everyone knows the answers to what they would have to do. The problem is much more the discrepancy between the life you would like to lead and the one you actually lead.
The more the actual image of yourself differs from the one you would like to have, the worse your inner experience and your dissatisfaction becomes.
It does not happen overnight. It is a long process that you have to go step by step.
And almost only a good therapist can help you with that.
Nobody is interested in whether you do it or not. Only you, or not.
So it is only up to you what you do with your life.
Come from thinking into active action.
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I always like to read something like that, because I find it interesting what people think and feel.
I also have to look at the answers always on your text...
If your work just f**ks you, then f**k the work and find something else or
get fired and f**k it, be unemployed for 1 year and get some sleep.
Only do not get used to it, that is the worst mistake!
The German state does not let anyone starve ^^
In this time you are looking for a few hobbies together, manyicht what
you with the then new job could connect.
Cars are cool, but price performance is usually not given for the fun.
You can have 500 hp, after 3 months you ask yourself for what you fritter away this coal.
Self-confidence... I personally don't have that problem... But:
I can tell you already, self-confidence has nothing to do with weight or being thin/thick.
Self-confidence comes from the heart, if you're a shit guy, what good is your self-confidence... NIX
Think you like your fitness plan as much as your work ?
f**k it, go to a good gym, study what's on offer and then do what you really enjoy.
If you have fun with various fitness things, it is better and also no "must" think
My favorites are: Running,swimming, mountain biking, strength
With the new hobbies and/or sports you also get to know a lot of people,
friendships can possibly develop from it.
These, I say times existence thoughts (work / company / money) have certainly very many people.
I find this concern unjustified, because you can get through, for example, with Hartz4
In the self-experiment already 1 month made, because someone meant like inhuman.
Lieblingshartzer: Arno Dübel, best man, who has much less worries than some employers / takers.
with the debts yes, if your you with your parents no problem have and you there live, then it is nevertheless no matter
whether you in 1/2 years there again your tents abrichst or in 5 years, the time runs anyway and passes.
Don't make time limits for yourself, what's the use ? Exactly nothing, only stress.
If your depressions etc. become stronger I would also recommend a therapy/psychologist.
When I'm f**ked up, I shoot something broken, then I'm fine again and come to my senses
Ok is only unfortunately no advice for you, would be even nicer...
Effective weight loss ? Look without joke times at the Weightwatchers programs.
Since you have at least a plan and can still incorporate sports.
Am myself a fit sporty fatso (115/180) so I should also start ^^
I hope you could take a few tips, if you what has helped or not let me know
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would other similar stories pull you down further?
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Hey Tobi...believe me you are not alone!
Although it is not so awesome with me but so depressive episodes I also have times!
I work 12-15 hours a day - of course I have a good salary and I also enjoy working a lot...
but when I come home and no one is there, single for 1 year, then it pulls me down really, that you can share with no one his day.
Then drink 1-2 bottles of wine and half drunk at the slots ...
The next day when I have then 300-400 € gambled away come the feelings of guilt...The einreden ...never gamble again but it comes then again differently!
With me it is at the moment in such a way that I am completely burned out ...at night can no longer sleep but not because I have debts or something else, but only the loneliness!
Together it sleeps rather nicer, because you know it from before ... there I never gambled!!!
I rather went on vacation and other things ...
Now and then I distract myself with an escort lady and am satisfied for a moment but the social environment is simply missing!
Eben also no real circle of friends...
Your story is not hopeless!!!
Believe in yourself !
Love life and it loves you !
Every day can be a new beginning and bring happiness ---- WITHOUT BUGGING !!!!
Especially no alcohol because that pulls you down even more ...I know too well and then you fall into self-pity and possibly do bad things ...
I bought a MTB and ride since then through woods and meadows in my little free time but there you really get the head free !
And every now and then you also have a connection with a lady ...who also cycles or jogs !!!!
Everything will be fine - if you only want it !!!
And if nothing more goes then just professional help !!!!
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That is absolutely the top answer, right to the point.
I too had a similar depressive phase and had also let myself go and got fatter, lived from month to month (despite a good salary) and often had to borrow small amounts from family to make ends meet.
This is really - sorry - really really shit and the other people are also worried about you or no longer help financially. At some point, you can no longer say "Sorry had a lot of bills to pay".
Meanwhile, I also go back to the gym!
Random put it so well! In a few days you are no longer interested in the thread, soon there will be new salary and then the whole shit starts again from the beginning.
Then you drink once again on the weekend and will be in a few months still in the "thinking", instead of really actively acted.
You will then also notice that you haven't made any progress and time is running out - your depressions might even get worse!
Your parents will certainly notice that you are not doing well, and they may also be quietly worried.
Actually you want your parents to be proud of you, they don't want to see you as a heap of misery and neither do YOU!
Go train regularly, build yourself up again!
Of course, therapy is a solution in some cases, but many people don't do it because they are ashamed of it, also because they don't work.
Try to treat yourself with sports, get your debts under control and see gambling as a luxury good. Set yourself limits or take a hardcore break from it all for a few months.
Make your parents proud! If you don't get into active gambling as soon as possible - as Random wrote - you might regret it bitterly one day not to have done it sooner.
At some point you realize that you have to do something in your life, having a good job is of course important but that alone is not enough.
Earning good money and going to work every day is a good argument to talk up the rest.
I wish you a nice evening!
VG
Starwalker
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but I normally never and nimma so write...Since spoke probably the alcohol from me...
I was probably bored and it had to get out in the moment, this morning I was already ashamed of it^^
With the wonderfully beautiful day today I also had time to think about my current situation.
Actually, it runs compared to half a year ago relatively well, for a few months I have no new
new debts and I'm reducing my debts every month. (No heavy outliers while gambling)
Since almost a month I'm also training, only the beginning was very difficult, but now it works.
In terms of therapy, I had at least years ago sessions with a psychologist / psychiatrist ^ ^ with tablets and everything, but was rather nixed
but it was rather nothing for me.
Otherwise I have individual sessions with a therapist regarding Gambling addiction every now and then. (Unfortunately relatively inconstant, because she is often sick...)
@Sweep: I always tell myself (women): "You can't do without them, but you can't do with them either"
I should probably, as hard as it is, mainly always pick out the positive things too...
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