Inpatient therapy - questions about it & your experiences
12th Jan. 2022, at 11:59 am CET#1
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Good day to you all,
I am now 26 years old and have been registered here for several years, but mostly as a silent reader.
I've been gambling for about 9 years, I've been addicted to gambling for about 6 years. At least it has been problematic for 6 years. In my life I have gambled so far about 100,000 €, +/- 10,000. Nothing saved, lived & worked only for gambling, living at subsistence level, depression, resulting problems / breaks within the family / relationship are of course also included.
About two months ago, however, after I had another relapse, gambled away several thousand euros and my girlfriend has put the gun to my chest, I decided to take the step to make an inpatient therapy. I am aware that I can only be helped in this way - by seeking help. The step should have come, as with most, of course much earlier. But well, better late than never. To this end, I, or rather my doctor, have now found a facility where I could be admitted as an inpatient starting in March. However, this would be about 2 hours away from me, I come from the area of North Rhine-Westphalia and I was told that there are no facilities that focus exclusively on Gambling addiction, but that this is often only a side part of the treatment would say I times. Now I hope that I can find some people here who have already had experience with inpatient treatment and can perhaps even recommend facilities to me or answer a few questions.
Maybe someone has already been in inpatient therapy in the NRW area?
What did the treatment/leisure activities look like, how can I roughly imagine the daily routine?
Can I go home at the weekend?
To what extent did the therapy change your life afterwards?
Hey, I think it's good that you write so openly about it, many in this forum are addicted and have gambled away huge sums, including me
For my part I think nothing of closed facilities, clearly can be helped the one or the other in which he is shown a different process, but the real happens in your head in which you say I stop and this time really so consciously to know it's over, I told myself 3 weeks ago and it's over I no longer play but I like to come in the forum and see if people times out that helps me even more.
I hope you make it, but please never forget that you will always be addicted in your head, you just can't go back if you want to start a new life
Always remember what happened to you through this, even if you are eventually out and you have your life fully under control, do not even think about 20 € to Deposit your head knows that and then goes crazy and wants more and so the crap then starts again
If you want to stay at home then talk to your girlfriend, family and go to Caritas, or to Diakonisches Werk they are free and you can go home every day. I would recommend that to you, we are not junkies on heroin, I think Caritas is enough for you anonymously and the Diakoni also help you with your debts, what more do you want
All the best I hope you pack this and to all the play calls at the diakoni or at Caritas to help you that are really nice people just dare it's all over after just one call!
Inpatient therapy - questions about it & your experiences
12th Jan. 2022, at 01:53 pm CET#3
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Ibea01 wrote on 12/01/2022 at 11:59: Good day everyone,
I am now 26 years old and have also been registered here for several years, but mostly as a silent reader.
I've been gambling for about 9 years, I've been addicted to gambling for about 6 years. At least it has been problematic for 6 years. In my life I have gambled so far about 100,000 €, +/- 10,000. Nothing saved, lived & worked only for gambling, living at subsistence level, depression, resulting problems / breaks within the family / relationship are of course also included.
About two months ago, however, after I had another relapse, gambled away several thousand euros and my girlfriend has put the gun to my chest, I decided to take the step to make an inpatient therapy. I am aware that I can only be helped in this way - by seeking help. The step should have come, as with most, of course much earlier. But well, better late than never. To this end, I, or rather my doctor, have now found a facility where I could be admitted as an inpatient starting in March. However, this would be about 2 hours away from me, I come from the area of North Rhine-Westphalia and I was told that there are no facilities that focus exclusively on Gambling addiction, but that this is often only a side part of the treatment would say I times. Now I hope that I can find some people here who have already had experience with inpatient treatment and can perhaps even recommend facilities to me or answer a few questions.
Maybe someone has already been in inpatient therapy in the NRW area?
What did the treatment/leisure activities look like, how can I roughly imagine the daily routine?
Can I go home at the weekend?
To what extent did the therapy change your life afterwards?
Thank you in advance and love
I can't tell you with experience reports and how such a therapy proceeds.
It is always said that problems start in the head. When I read your posting, especially between the lines, your plan does not really seem so convincing.
Maybe it is already the addiction that is looking for ways out in your head and is pushing the comfort joker forward
Therefore a few food for thought.
Good opportunities must be seized
Be happy and humble that you have the opportunity to take advantage of a therapy place in a relatively short time. Sometimes other people have to wait much longer to get help (and for some people waiting means suffering until then)
What speaks against 2 hours (!!? hours, no day trips) away from home to start a therapy?
Especially when you can have the luxury of being treated directly by specialists with a focus on gambling addiction? What could be better for you?
Would you rather be only one hour away from home, but in a clinic where gambling addiction is only treated SIDE by SIDE?
If you have a toothache, you don't go to a general practitioner because he's not that far away
Every one of us is afraid of something unknown and completely new. Some more, some less, but nobody feels really comfortable with it. So at least I have not yet met a person completely without fears
See it as a chance to meet new people, a new environment, unfamiliar daily routines clear your head, distract you, put the focus on other things, for example, on yourself, etc
Whatever, you can only win
A try makes wise, we live in all probability only ONCE and that should be worth it to you
I wish you a lot of strength and energy to make it. Start it!
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28th Jan. 2022, at 12:15 am CET#4
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Thorin2017 wrote on 12.01.2022 at 13:53
With experience reports and how such a therapy runs I can not tell you.
It is always said that problems start in the head. When I read your posting, especially between the lines, your plan does not really seem so convincing.
Maybe it is already the addiction that is looking for ways out in your head and is pushing the comfort joker forward
Therefore a few food for thought.
Good opportunities must be seized
Be happy and humble that you have the opportunity to take advantage of a therapy place in a relatively short time. Sometimes other people have to wait much longer to get help (and for some people waiting means suffering until then)
What speaks against 2 hours (!!? hours, no day trips) away from home to start a therapy?
Especially when you can have the luxury of being treated directly by specialists with a focus on Gambling addiction? What could be better for you?
Would you rather be only an hour away from home, but in a clinic where gambling addiction is only treated SIDE by SIDE?
If you have a toothache, you don't go to a general practitioner because he's not that far away
Every one of us is afraid of something unknown and completely new. Some more, some less, but nobody feels really comfortable with it. So at least I have not yet met a person completely without fears
See it as a chance to meet new people, a new environment, unfamiliar daily routines clear your head, distract you, put the focus on other things, for example, on yourself, etc
Whatever, you can only win
A try makes wise, we live in all probability only ONCE and that should be worth it to you
I wish you a lot of strength and energy to make it. Start it!
First of all, thank you for your words!
You are absolutely right that I should be glad about the possibility. And that my posting should not be particularly convincing, can also be good - I do this mainly my wife for love.
I know it's wrong, but as an addict the thought of gambling is always in my mind and secretly I hope to be able to continue gambling somewhere. Because I have the feeling that nothing else remains for me, that everything else is unimportant. Although it is actually nonsense. Totally crazy, if you think about it, I can't explain it to myself. But the important thing is that I am ready to do it. When I was still alone, I would never have taken this step on my own
Personally, I don't care about the place/clinic. However, since my wife is pregnant and it is a high-risk pregnancy, it is hard for me to leave my girlfriend, who is heavily pregnant at the time, alone for weeks. Nonetheless, I will take this chance and am currently waiting to hear back from the facility
LG Ibea
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28th Jan. 2022, at 02:48 am CET#5
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Here are the hard facts
Therapy only works if you change your whole life afterwards.
That means: change your circle of friends, change your place of residence and change EVERYTHING that has directly or indirectly led to your addictive behavior!
The plan is actually only successful in the context of a long-term therapy (6 to 9 months)!
Everything else has a chance of success of about 10%!
You are still young, so try a "normal" therapy first!
Maybe you are one of the 10%.
I wish you that you make it!!!
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28th Jan. 2022, at 08:24 am CET#6
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taylor3733 wrote on 01/28/2022 at 02:48: Here are the hard facts
Therapy only works if you change your whole life afterwards.
That means: change your circle of friends, change your place of residence and change EVERYTHING that directly or indirectly led to your addictive behavior!
The plan is actually only successful in the context of a long-term therapy (6 to 9 months)!
Everything else has a chance of success of about 10%!
You are still young, so try a "normal" therapy first!
Maybe you are one of the 10%.
I wish you that you make it!!!
Nonsense. Just nonsense. You don't have to move, nor do you have to change your circle of friends. And you should not take drugs either.
What kind of "tips" are sometimes given here is really scary.
If you secretly hope to continue gambling somewhere, therapy makes no sense at all!
If you do it "mainly" for the love of your wife, also not!
And if you have the feeling that nothing else remains for you, also not
In this, your case, it would make more sense if you continue to play, after all (at least that's how it/you come across to me) you don't seem to have lost enough yet.
And with "lost" I mean as the very last money!
Anyway, there is much much more, more than you can even imagine - a bad nightmare would be quite harmless in this case...
So just continue as before (with your attitude) and especially what concerns your therapy and other attitude to it, as said - there is still a lot more.
On the other hand, you could also use the therapy as a chance, but one that will only work if you get involved.
The basic prerequisite for this would be that you strive for complete abstinence from gambling, take personal responsibility for your life - end your senseless vegetation - and furthermore make the desired therapy in the first instance only for yourself.
And as far as self-responsibility is concerned, if you can take responsibility for yourself, then you will also be able to do it for others, in this case also for your wife and the unborn child
What I want to tell you with my little contribution,
don't think so much about playing, it doesn't make sense anyway, and instead start with your attitude towards the WHOLE.
And something else for you to think about, gambling as I operated it or you possibly still operate is pure egoism.
And in this context,
either you are/will be a good spouse and father in the future ... or a gambler.
Both - and I know exactly where I'm talking about - you can and will never be!
So you have the choice
All the best to you.
Small addition still, make your abstinence (if that comes for you into question) not from any quotas (Blablabla only 10% etc.) without exception every game/play, every relapse is planned ice cold.
So, the therapy is now over for over a month. The 2 months were very intensive, but above all so far one thing - successful. The pressure of addiction is of course still there and will always come back and always be part of my life, especially in phases in which I am not mentally well. But I have learned to deal with it and have been gambling-free for almost half a year now. It feels absolutely good, yesterday for example I had a lot of pressure, but then I went out for a smoke, talked to my wife and after a short while I was able to cool down. Online I am and remain locked everywhere and that is also best so
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14th Jun. 2022, at 10:16 pm CEST#9
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Ibea01 wrote on 14.06.2022 at 20:54: So, the therapy is now over for over a month. The 2 months were very intensive, but above all so far one thing - successful. The pressure of addiction is of course still there and will always come back and always be part of my life, especially in phases in which I am not mentally well. But I have learned to deal with it and have been gambling-free for almost half a year now. It feels absolutely good, yesterday for example I had a lot of pressure, but then I went out for a smoke, talked to my wife and after a short while I was able to cool down. Online I am and remain locked everywhere and that's the best way
Very good I'm glad to hear stay tuned you certainly do not miss anything
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14th Jun. 2022, at 11:01 pm CEST#10
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Ibea01 wrote on 14.06.2022 at 20:54: So, the therapy is now over for over a month. The 2 months were very intensive, but above all so far one thing - successful. The pressure of addiction is of course still there and will always come back and will always be part of my life, especially in phases in which I am not mentally well. But I have learned to deal with it and have been gambling-free for almost half a year now. It feels absolutely good, yesterday for example I had a lot of pressure, but then I went out for a smoke, talked to my wife and after a short while I was able to cool down. Online I am and remain locked everywhere and that's best
Very nice. Find it great that you gave feedback again. All the best for the future family life you three.
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I am now 26 years old and have been registered here for several years, but mostly as a silent reader.
I've been gambling for about 9 years, I've been addicted to gambling for about 6 years. At least it has been problematic for 6 years. In my life I have gambled so far about 100,000 €, +/- 10,000. Nothing saved, lived & worked only for gambling, living at subsistence level, depression, resulting problems / breaks within the family / relationship are of course also included.
About two months ago, however, after I had another relapse, gambled away several thousand euros and my girlfriend has put the gun to my chest, I decided to take the step to make an inpatient therapy. I am aware that I can only be helped in this way - by seeking help. The step should have come, as with most, of course much earlier. But well, better late than never. To this end, I, or rather my doctor, have now found a facility where I could be admitted as an inpatient starting in March. However, this would be about 2 hours away from me, I come from the area of North Rhine-Westphalia and I was told that there are no facilities that focus exclusively on Gambling addiction, but that this is often only a side part of the treatment would say I times. Now I hope that I can find some people here who have already had experience with inpatient treatment and can perhaps even recommend facilities to me or answer a few questions.
Maybe someone has already been in inpatient therapy in the NRW area?
What did the treatment/leisure activities look like, how can I roughly imagine the daily routine?
Can I go home at the weekend?
To what extent did the therapy change your life afterwards?
Thank you in advance and love
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For my part I think nothing of closed facilities, clearly can be helped the one or the other in which he is shown a different process, but the real happens in your head in which you say I stop and this time really so consciously to know it's over, I told myself 3 weeks ago and it's over I no longer play but I like to come in the forum and see if people times out that helps me even more.
I hope you make it, but please never forget that you will always be addicted in your head, you just can't go back if you want to start a new life
Always remember what happened to you through this, even if you are eventually out and you have your life fully under control, do not even think about 20 € to Deposit your head knows that and then goes crazy and wants more and so the crap then starts again
If you want to stay at home then talk to your girlfriend, family and go to Caritas, or to Diakonisches Werk they are free and you can go home every day. I would recommend that to you, we are not junkies on heroin, I think Caritas is enough for you anonymously and the Diakoni also help you with your debts, what more do you want
All the best I hope you pack this and to all the play calls at the diakoni or at Caritas to help you that are really nice people just dare it's all over after just one call!
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I can't tell you with experience reports and how such a therapy proceeds.
It is always said that problems start in the head. When I read your posting, especially between the lines, your plan does not really seem so convincing.
Maybe it is already the addiction that is looking for ways out in your head and is pushing the comfort joker forward
Therefore a few food for thought.
Good opportunities must be seized
Be happy and humble that you have the opportunity to take advantage of a therapy place in a relatively short time. Sometimes other people have to wait much longer to get help (and for some people waiting means suffering until then)
What speaks against 2 hours (!!? hours, no day trips) away from home to start a therapy?
Especially when you can have the luxury of being treated directly by specialists with a focus on gambling addiction? What could be better for you?
Would you rather be only one hour away from home, but in a clinic where gambling addiction is only treated SIDE by SIDE?
If you have a toothache, you don't go to a general practitioner because he's not that far away
Every one of us is afraid of something unknown and completely new. Some more, some less, but nobody feels really comfortable with it. So at least I have not yet met a person completely without fears
See it as a chance to meet new people, a new environment, unfamiliar daily routines clear your head, distract you, put the focus on other things, for example, on yourself, etc
Whatever, you can only win
A try makes wise, we live in all probability only ONCE and that should be worth it to you
I wish you a lot of strength and energy to make it. Start it!
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First of all, thank you for your words!
You are absolutely right that I should be glad about the possibility. And that my posting should not be particularly convincing, can also be good - I do this mainly my wife for love.
I know it's wrong, but as an addict the thought of gambling is always in my mind and secretly I hope to be able to continue gambling somewhere. Because I have the feeling that nothing else remains for me, that everything else is unimportant. Although it is actually nonsense. Totally crazy, if you think about it, I can't explain it to myself. But the important thing is that I am ready to do it. When I was still alone, I would never have taken this step on my own
Personally, I don't care about the place/clinic. However, since my wife is pregnant and it is a high-risk pregnancy, it is hard for me to leave my girlfriend, who is heavily pregnant at the time, alone for weeks. Nonetheless, I will take this chance and am currently waiting to hear back from the facility
LG Ibea
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Therapy only works if you change your whole life afterwards.
That means: change your circle of friends, change your place of residence and change EVERYTHING that has directly or indirectly led to your addictive behavior!
The plan is actually only successful in the context of a long-term therapy (6 to 9 months)!
Everything else has a chance of success of about 10%!
You are still young, so try a "normal" therapy first!
Maybe you are one of the 10%.
I wish you that you make it!!!
Edit by Caro: part of the post was removed (definitely not a good recommendation)
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Nonsense. Just nonsense. You don't have to move, nor do you have to change your circle of friends. And you should not take drugs either.
What kind of "tips" are sometimes given here is really scary.
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If you do it "mainly" for the love of your wife, also not!
And if you have the feeling that nothing else remains for you, also not
In this, your case, it would make more sense if you continue to play, after all (at least that's how it/you come across to me) you don't seem to have lost enough yet.
And with "lost" I mean as the very last money!
Anyway, there is much much more, more than you can even imagine - a bad nightmare would be quite harmless in this case...
So just continue as before (with your attitude) and especially what concerns your therapy and other attitude to it, as said - there is still a lot more.
On the other hand, you could also use the therapy as a chance, but one that will only work if you get involved.
The basic prerequisite for this would be that you strive for complete abstinence from gambling, take personal responsibility for your life - end your senseless vegetation - and furthermore make the desired therapy in the first instance only for yourself.
And as far as self-responsibility is concerned, if you can take responsibility for yourself, then you will also be able to do it for others, in this case also for your wife and the unborn child
What I want to tell you with my little contribution,
don't think so much about playing, it doesn't make sense anyway, and instead start with your attitude towards the WHOLE.
And something else for you to think about, gambling as I operated it or you possibly still operate is pure egoism.
And in this context,
either you are/will be a good spouse and father in the future ... or a gambler.
Both - and I know exactly where I'm talking about - you can and will never be!
So you have the choice
All the best to you.
Small addition still, make your abstinence (if that comes for you into question) not from any quotas (Blablabla only 10% etc.) without exception every game/play, every relapse is planned ice cold.
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Very good I'm glad to hear stay tuned you certainly do not miss anything
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Very nice. Find it great that you gave feedback again. All the best for the future family life you three.
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