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Living with gambling addiction: Personality change! From reliable employee/partner/friend to egoist. (Page 2)

Topic created on 07th Sep. 2021 | Page: 2 of 2 | Answers: 15 | Views: 6,243
Ichbins2018
Top Member
Bitcoin wrote on 28/01/2022 at 09:58: Hi Flo Thank you for that. I am at the exact same point and afraid how my environment will react.

As for your environment and how it will react (if you come out) I can not answer you at this point unfortunately.
How an environment reacts which has been led around by the nose for years - probably already suspects something or is suspicious (change of character etc.) - then confronts you one day (if they find out themselves) with your facts ... hmmm mostly relatives are then quite disappointed.

It would be better if you explain your "environment" - and a "gambling addiction" is really no reason to be ashamed - possibly also to be afraid of how now friends, family or other relatives react to it.

As for what is written above...
it is my personal experience that I have made over the years with relatives and gambling addicts - and mostly relatives react (I do not say 100% now) but still mostly positive, especially now that they know what is going on with you.
Of course, they usually have something to digest (must first understand) but almost always extend a helping hand.

Then you should also consider that sooner or later the game is over anyway (I had already written somewhere here) - Gambling addiction is a progressive disease - which means that you will always need more and more addictive substances to satisfy your addiction.

For this reason,
i can only recommend that you give yourself a jolt, enlighten your relatives - and as I said, most of the time or rarely it comes out the way you thought it would, - and you will see that your fears were completely unfounded

All the best to you.

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Spielozocker
Visitor
Tonka Bean wrote on 07/09/2021 at 15:28: Hi Florian.

Awesome and honest story .

It was similar with my friend.

But I threw him out the door - because it also went into criminal activities.

One thing is a fact.

Only when the whole online casino crap completely disappears, the addicts are really helped.

No therapy or other waste - only when the casinos really disappear is peace!

By this I also mean all the illegal ones like the Curacao booths etc.

That one gets into a "also self-inflicted" predicament is also the fault that it is made too easy.

There lock and there register again.

That is too simple.

I myself also play in Oc's at the beginning more and now almost no longer.

It's just not fun anymore and as fast as the money is gone, you can't earn it at all.

Have gambled away since the beginning in the Online Casinos c.a. 6000 €.

Is unlike you, very little - fortunately - and am therefore not in debt.

I quickly noticed that the short fun is too expensive for me - have also played high stakes and currently the whole thing already borders on absolute cheek what the slots bring so.

No more desire to finance the ladies and gentlemen their lives.

Have dedicated myself to my old passion again.

Collect records from all areas of music for years.

Although some collectibles are very expensive but it has a added value !

Do now also with Weltsparen and bought me a few cryptos and invest them.

And already you do not even think about gambling in casinos.

Simply more sensible like these glancing boxes.

Try to do something in this direction?

Wish you from my heart all the best and you are only 27 years - there are 25k quickly paid off!





I would be very careful with that statement. Crypto is by no means more sensible or better than anything else. On the contrary, the crypto craze has literally destroyed people in my environment. They were better off in their gambling days.

And remember, if a gambling addict shifts his addiction to crypto, he will gamble there too, and then it gets really nasty. Normal investors is a different story.

Everything that is associated with high Risk and loss potential destroys you.

More sensible are rather 0815 ETFs and funds and solid stocks.

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sonne10
Top Member
I would not apply for private insolvency at your age. Try to find a good loan where you still have the possibility to afford something small. Block yourself online casinos.

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streetworksusi
Rookie
Hello,

i also think that it is dangerous to change to something else. Then it might be just as bad. Be careful and better seek help if you are unsure what to do.

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HuKu_Koln
Rookie
Whether a private insolvency makes sense depends mainly on the personal income and financial obligations.
A consumer loan with 25,000.- is currently usually granted for about 3-4.5%. This results in quite high installments, which you must first be able to afford. In addition, it can be with a corresponding Schufa, depending on how the debts came about, also partly difficult to get a loan or even higher interest rates to accept.

Debts Interest rate mntl. rate Term Residual debt
25.000,- 3% 727,- 3 years paid off
25.000,- 1,5% 710,- 3 years paid off
25.000,- 3% 450,- 5 years paid off
25.000,- 1,5% 430,- 5 years paid off



In addition, there are other aspects such as:


  • No nasty surprises if a debtor is forgotten.

  • A peaceful sleep.

  • External control factor that can additionally prevent one from gambling.

  • and more...



The fact that no credits can be taken up during the private insolvency was specified as negative point, it is to be seen nevertheless actually positively that the own consumer behavior can be again reconsidered and evenly not over the own financial framework one lives. A good chance again a feeling for the own money and income to win.

I find it impressive that you have now so openly sought confrontation with the topic. It was certainly not easy to make the effort and open up to various people. Whether private insolvency and therapy or not. Whichever way it is, it's great that you go him Florian. You are still young and are just setting the first stone for a new beginning and will be able to start clean again - without a debtor from the past catching up with you. Good luck.

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DeinVater
Top Member

Saagi94 wrote on 07/09/2021 at 02:44: Hey guys, I'm Florian, 27...

Let me tell you a little bit about myself....

I'm a refrigeration technician, I've been working for 11 years in a company that also trained me and I would say that I like going to work....
currently I do customer service, but now and then I also do installations.
I would rate myself as a reliable employee, have a sense of humor and radiate it (hopefully).
I've been together with my girlfriend for 2 years, with whom I have the feeling to have arrived... trust is very important to us.
Since 11.2020 we live together.

My friends, can rely on me and I on them....
i help everyone I can help. This always triggers a good feeling in me....
Maybe one or the other knows that with gifts.... Giving is nicer than being given 😅 at least with me....

So... and then...
Yes, then I have me from January to Today around 25000€ in Debt, have lied, have become unreliable. Have made others responsible for my behavior, have become selfish and also unscrupulous....

So I have turned, so to speak, once.
Although I know that I am not... I am so...
I know that I have a Gambling addiction nailed to my leg and therefore any principles have gone down the drain...
Only why I have become a gambling addict, I do not know...

I think I have been gambling for at least 7-8 years...
so absolutely controlled, irregularly (maybe 5-6 times a year) with 50€ each time...
never changed my gambling behavior, always the same.... Take 5/Tripple Chance 50cent...
Right pensioner mode 😜

So then came the Online Casinos and I have found pleasure in the speed....
and especially that I could choose my environment (which would not have mattered in the end, because I would not have noticed whether I'm in paradise or up to my neck in the ... you know )
Absolute loss of control, to the point of nervous breakdowns that felt like a stun grenade exploding next to me.
I developed an uncanny knack for organizing money away from my friends, family and colleagues. Slowly but surely I cut myself off because I only had 2 things on my mind: 1. keep up a facade 2. organize money.
And I didn't even ask myself if something was going wrong.

Well... I'll leave out the rest... not that you don't want to read so much...

So currently it looks like this:

I'm seeing a debt counselor and addiction counselor.
Next week I apply for private insolvency.
In the same breath, I'm doing an inpatient therapy. ( unfortunately I don't know where yet, I'm currently dealing with all the paperwork. )

So basically I am at the very beginning, still addicted to gambling and in debt... even though I am not gambling at the moment.
Currently trying to take away my options. For example, my girlfriend gets my salary on her account and I have her credit card which is on prepaid basis for shopping. If I buy something, she sees it immediately on her phone.
But I think that's fine, that's what I get for having broken her trust...

The worst thing for me is to realize what I have become... how I have changed....
How I have lost my zest for life and what I am capable of....

I have now informed all the people who are in my life... from the boss, to the distant acquaintance whom I with my "hey I need times 55€ at PayPal, because I want to get a parasol for my terrace and my Paypal about debit does not work, would just transfer the money to your account," method, procured money....
this bekloppte method, I have made 1 to 1 with other people, but kept the case low, that these people possibly exchanged... absolutely sick.

Well, now I finally feel good again. I have cleared my conscience a little and am glad that almost everyone has been so understanding... grateful is more like it.
If someone told me that I didn't have to give him the money back, I refused...
everyone gets their money back...

i acted logically and asked everyone about the urgency. Since I could never pay everyone off right away....

I am finally proud of myself again... but also know that I still have a long way to go... but I am ready and motivated....


Thanks for reading...
would love to hear your story no matter where you are right now... whether just starting or at the end ( if there is one )

Sometimes I wish I had someone I could just write with... on WhatsApp for example... someone who understands me when my head gets unhooked... unbiased and... unconditional
And of course send funny videos.... ✊😅

So now that's really it... thanks for reading, seriously!

Thanks for your honest sharing ❤️💚💙💜

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