For a long time I thought about writing here, but I am at a point where I just want to have my life back.
The whole thing started 5 years ago.I must say that I am borderliner,have ADHD and due to mental disorders since 2006 full EU pension.Yes,I am prone to addictions,because I have a constant emptiness in me and that must always somehow cover,otherwise my emotions come through too strongly and I can not stand.That's first to the basics. At first it was just fun, times there 30 euros, to shorten the whole thing, if on 30.Geldeingang is, I have on 1.nix more.The only thing, I always pay all bills rent, etc., only for me remains nix, if I did not have my sons, I would have long starved.I'm so ashamed and just want to get out of there,because it also totally changes you,you get a whole different perspective on money,that scares me.How did you manage or what helps you not to follow this urge.The funny thing is,when I have no more money to play with,I feel better!!!!
DasAtom wrote on 06/06/2022 at 19:50: Keep playing until you don't feel like it anymore, you develop other interests over time. That's why enjoy the time 🙂
DasAtom wrote on 06/06/2022 at 19:50: Keep playing until you don't feel like it anymore, you develop other interests over time. That's why enjoy the time 🙂
Is the concept applicable to all addictions?
@ Sophia first try to make the access to gambling as difficult as possible, e.g. have the money managed by a trustworthy person
Gambling addiction is not to be underestimated, there are no really representative studies but I believe that this form of addiction has one of the highest suicide rates ever. Almost every other addict you can physically see that something is wrong, even with many mental illnesses this is the case. But not so with gambling addiction. Therefore, the affected person must seek help himself/herself, since nothing comes from the outside. It is best to seek professional help in an addiction counseling, self-help group or with a psychologist. See to it that a person of your trust manages the money and try not to get money through any loans or "dark channels"
wettibernd wrote on 08.06.2022 at 15:43: Hello Sophia,
Gambling addiction is not to be underestimated, there are no really representative studies but I believe that this form of addiction has one of the highest suicide rates ever. Almost every other addict you can physically see that something is wrong, even with many mental illnesses this is the case. But not so with gambling addiction. Therefore, the affected person must seek help himself/herself, since nothing comes from the outside. It is best to seek professional help in an addiction counseling, self-help group or with a psychologist. See to it that a person of your trust manages the money and try not to get money through any loans or "dark channels"
In any case, I wish you all the best.
That's it. Seek help 🙏 talk to your confidants. Of course this is all so easy to write but I know it's hard. The first step is just to talk to a close confidant about it. Let your sons handle the money matters for now. Talk to your sons about it and make an appointment with an addiction counselor. Good luck you can do this 💪💪
Know the feeling well, "when the last money is gambled away, you are relieved,"
As soon as you receive your monthly money, you start gambling.
As you watch your money dwindle, more and more pressure builds inside.
Towards the end, the losses are just agony, so you're relieved when this agonizing -losing money- stops.
The pressure is just so awesome, because you put everything you have into it, and gamble it all away within a day, which should last you a whole month.
I had a high addiction phase where I gambled away everything that was available to me every month within 1-2 days, so that I had to go deep into the dispo to have food.
Got out of it temporarily after I closed all existing accounts about 20 casinos and had turned my everyday life around:
Work during the day and do sports and in the evening a fixed TV program or meet friends and fix 9 hours sleep....
However, this only helped temporarily because I didn't tell anyone about my addiction. When I had stress at work, I started to play again in the evening, alone with a couple of beers. Have it somewhat under control but make losses again...
Can agree with the suggestions of the people above and especially emphasize
Please talk to one or more confidants e.g. your sons about your addiction and ask for help here too.
Fighting addiction alone is mega hard.
That will be my next step as well. Talk to one or more trusted people about the addiction and ask for help.
I wish you all the best and really hope you get out of it!
The way I read it, the underlying problem is not your gambling addiction.
You should go to psychotherapy and have your root problems treated.
The inner emptiness you describe was caused by events in your past, maybe even childhood.
This can be a trauma, which was not processed, bad events etc.
You will not get rid of the Gambling addiction if you do not treat your psyche. That's why you should definitely see a psychotherapist, and I assume that you have already seen several, given your findings.
Has no one been able to treat you in this respect so far? In any case, you should never give up and follow through with therapy in the long term!
How to get away from addiction?
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The whole thing started 5 years ago.I must say that I am borderliner,have ADHD and due to mental disorders since 2006 full EU pension.Yes,I am prone to addictions,because I have a constant emptiness in me and that must always somehow cover,otherwise my emotions come through too strongly and I can not stand.That's first to the basics. At first it was just fun, times there 30 euros, to shorten the whole thing, if on 30.Geldeingang is, I have on 1.nix more.The only thing, I always pay all bills rent, etc., only for me remains nix, if I did not have my sons, I would have long starved.I'm so ashamed and just want to get out of there,because it also totally changes you,you get a whole different perspective on money,that scares me.How did you manage or what helps you not to follow this urge.The funny thing is,when I have no more money to play with,I feel better!!!!
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You can read everything and it makes you very sad, your story.
First of all, great praise to your sons - mom you always help.👍
Would recommend you that your sons should also manage your money.
You give the pension fund the bank account of one of your sons and they manage your money.
Would be first the most sensible, since you as you write can not handle money.
Try to experience loneliness or your disorders with something meaningful.
A good friend of mine also has such deficits.
She started painting and has become very balanced.
We are all here no psychologists but a hobby a task in life can sometimes work wonders.
There are also special camps and facilities that allow you to find yourself.
Google for it.
Borderline is a very dangerous disease.
A difficult but also healing way is the voluntary admission to a psychiatric clinic.
There you can and will be helped.
Think about something beautiful, learn to love life
Above all, learn to love yourself.
Hope not to have become too personal.
Take care of yourself and seek professional help.
Feel hugged 🤗🤗🤗
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Is the concept applicable to all addictions?
@ Sophia first try to make the access to gambling as difficult as possible, e.g. have the money managed by a trustworthy person
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Gambling addiction is not to be underestimated, there are no really representative studies but I believe that this form of addiction has one of the highest suicide rates ever. Almost every other addict you can physically see that something is wrong, even with many mental illnesses this is the case. But not so with gambling addiction. Therefore, the affected person must seek help himself/herself, since nothing comes from the outside. It is best to seek professional help in an addiction counseling, self-help group or with a psychologist. See to it that a person of your trust manages the money and try not to get money through any loans or "dark channels"
In any case, I wish you all the best.
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That's it. Seek help 🙏 talk to your confidants. Of course this is all so easy to write but I know it's hard. The first step is just to talk to a close confidant about it. Let your sons handle the money matters for now. Talk to your sons about it and make an appointment with an addiction counselor. Good luck you can do this 💪💪
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How to get away from addiction?
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Know the feeling well, "when the last money is gambled away, you are relieved,"
As soon as you receive your monthly money, you start gambling.
As you watch your money dwindle, more and more pressure builds inside.
Towards the end, the losses are just agony, so you're relieved when this agonizing -losing money- stops.
The pressure is just so awesome, because you put everything you have into it, and gamble it all away within a day, which should last you a whole month.
I had a high addiction phase where I gambled away everything that was available to me every month within 1-2 days, so that I had to go deep into the dispo to have food.
Got out of it temporarily after I closed all existing accounts about 20 casinos and had turned my everyday life around:
Work during the day and do sports and in the evening a fixed TV program or meet friends and fix 9 hours sleep....
However, this only helped temporarily because I didn't tell anyone about my addiction. When I had stress at work, I started to play again in the evening, alone with a couple of beers. Have it somewhat under control but make losses again...
Can agree with the suggestions of the people above and especially emphasize
Please talk to one or more confidants e.g. your sons about your addiction and ask for help here too.
Fighting addiction alone is mega hard.
That will be my next step as well. Talk to one or more trusted people about the addiction and ask for help.
I wish you all the best and really hope you get out of it!
LG,
Ferdo
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You should go to psychotherapy and have your root problems treated.
The inner emptiness you describe was caused by events in your past, maybe even childhood.
This can be a trauma, which was not processed, bad events etc.
You will not get rid of the Gambling addiction if you do not treat your psyche. That's why you should definitely see a psychotherapist, and I assume that you have already seen several, given your findings.
Has no one been able to treat you in this respect so far? In any case, you should never give up and follow through with therapy in the long term!
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